Why Not Let Yourself be Who You Are
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by Laurie Richardone
What if the most powerful thing you could do was simply to be yourself?
Somewhere along the way, many of us learned that fitting in mattered more than standing out. We were taught to speak a certain way, look a certain way, and behave a certain way. We slowly began to hide the parts of us that didn’t fit the mold.
Let’s explore what it really means to live authentically—why so many of us hold back, the courage it takes to show up as we are, and why that kind of living matters deeply.
Living authentically means aligning our actions with who we are beneath the layers, beyond expectations or the need for approval.
It’s important to note that authenticity is not a fixed state. It’s a process, a practice of self-awareness and courageous honesty. Over the years, I’ve found that living this way requires not perfection, but presence.
However, before we can live authentically, we need to understand what’s holding us back. Why do we hide who we really are?
Let’s look at three quiet ways we begin to lose ourselves:
1. Subtle Self-Editing
We filter our thoughts, feelings, or quirks to avoid conflict or rejection. Over time, this becomes habitual—a persona designed to please others.
2. Fear of Losing Relationships
When we believe connection depends on us being more agreeable or more available, we suppress parts of who we are to preserve the bond.
3. Unspoken Expectations
Many relationships come with silent rules about how we should act or what we should value. If we’re not mindful, those expectations can slowly reshape who we authentically are.
Recognizing these universal patterns is the first step toward becoming our true selves.
The good news is, authenticity doesn’t mean having all the answers.
It begins with the questions you’re willing to ask. We don’t know what we don’t know—and the truth is, we don’t need to have everything figured out to fully participate in life’s experiences.
Here are some ideas that have helped me step into my true self:
• Start small. Say what you really feel, even if your voice shakes.
• Journal without editing. Let your truth out, unfiltered.
• Name your values and make one choice a day that reflects them.
For example: If you value growth, read a chapter of a challenging book. Sign up for that class you’ve been wanting to take. These daily decisions may seem small, but they build a life that reflects your real self. And that’s powerful.
Being your true self is an act of personal liberation. As I’ve become more authentic, I’ve stopped compromising my values. That has meant firmer boundaries—and sometimes, letting go of relationships that no longer align with those values.
Not every friendship is meant to last. But the ones that do are rooted in mutual respect, even when we disagree. That kind of true connection is everything. It’s not always easy, but it is worth it.
What would happen if we just showed up as we are, behind the mask, and behind the edits? What might shift if we let our true selves be seen?
I invite you to move through this season and ask yourself gently:
What would happen if I showed up… just as I am?
May you walk your path with honesty and heart ~
If you’re a curious person or a cook, join me on my Podcast, A Taste for All Seasons.
Listen to the latest episode, Just as you are.
All episodes are on LaurieRichardone.com ~ or wherever you listen to your podcasts.
Laurie Richardone is a seasonal chef, teacher of gluten-free cooking, and Wellness Coach