The Gift of Being Misunderstood

We waste energy trying to explain, justify, or smooth over how we come across. What if it’s okay, and actually powerful, to let go of being understood all the time?

by Laurie Richardone

As the holiday season draws near, many of us will find ourselves gathered around tables with family and loved ones — sharing meals, memories, and moments. Yet, even in the warmth of togetherness, it’s easy to feel unseen or misunderstood.

We all long to be known — to be heard and accepted just as we are — but sometimes, that’s easier said than done.

This month’s theme invites us to explore what it means to show up for one another with empathy and curiosity, not from a place of knowing what’s best, but through the lens of those we care for.

It’s not always tidy or comfortable, but within the awkwardness and imperfection lies the possibility for genuine connection, the kind that nourishes the heart far beyond the holiday table.

Many of us waste energy trying to explain, justify, or smooth over how we come across, and in the process, we can lose ourselves. What if it’s okay — actually powerful — to let go of being understood all the time?

As humans, we naturally long for connection, understanding, and a sense of belonging. Yet sometimes, in our desire to be understood, we begin to shape or quiet parts of ourselves just to fit in.

It’s easy to lose touch with our own values and truth when we’re focused on being seen a certain way. But being misunderstood is a natural part of growth.

The more you evolve, express your truth, and step into who you really are, some people may not fully understand you, and that’s okay. It simply means you’re expanding beyond who you once were.

You don’t have to be rude or distant — but you can lovingly detach. Accept that people filter you through their lens, not yours. What would shift in your life if you stopped explaining yourself? This week, try letting one thing go unexplained — and just observe what happens.

We all have moments when being misunderstood makes us feel as though we are being unseen. But perhaps accurate understanding begins when we can accept that someone else’s way of feeling safe, afraid, or loved is valid, even if it doesn’t resemble our own.

What if permitting yourself to be misunderstood is one of the most powerful acts of kindness you can give to yourself? “May you find peace in knowing that being misunderstood doesn’t mean you’re wrong — it means you’re growing.”

Wishing You a Warm Holiday Season

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Laurie Richardone is a seasonal chef, gluten-free cooking instructor, and Wellness Coach.